Straight Roads and Bending Curves

It is human nature to follow straight roads. When you are in school you look forward to college, in college you look forward to university and university compels you to look up on various jobs; a job, a few promotions, then marriage, then a family life, then children, then their responsibility and a continuous straight road for all of us. The life Road.

No doubt glitches are there you may get a pink slip in a blink of eyelash, you or your wife can start an extra-marital affair any moment dejected from the conjugal life, and your children can behave in many odd ways but still we all look forward to the straight roads. What for? To be happy? I don't think so. Ask anyone "Are you happy? The honest answer will be always "No". Except a confident "Yes", if you are asking a new bride as an outsider. That class is very susceptible and confused about themselves and their families. If we are on the straight roads to gain happyness, then why we end up being exactly the opposite sometimes?

Cause, we lack the interesting and challenging curves. They were in our lives earlier when we had less money and fewer clothes to flaunt. We promptly kicked them out at some point of time as a mere excuse of not having enough time, not interested and what other people will say or think? In this maddening race, we almost forget to nurture our happiness. We forget that we love to hang out with friends. We forget what our wives loved to do. We can't remember when was the last time we ate a dinner together with family. Forget the "we", Come to "I" and "me".

I have a great responsibility towards myself. If I am not happy, I should try hard to be happy. Culture my soul. Try to remember what made me happy in the past. What were my hobbies? Try my hand at new things and may discover facts about self that I previously didn't know. I may discover, I am good at pottery. That will bring me happiness of being good at something. I may discover that I have jelly feet in a dance lesson. I hobble, wobble and have great falls. That may also bring me happiness. These moments will bring smile to my face at unexpected situations also, like a serious business deal with a rival. This phenomenon is called making life easier to live. One thing is for sure, if I am not happy and satisfied with my life, I will make other people's life difficult by spreading negative energy. It is never late to realize a static status and start something new.

Try the challenge; try walking sometimes in the curves. Be happy and make others happy. Everybody has dark side to their personality built upon by their mistakes and guilties. I know one cannot dispense it. But try and push it to far corner of the mind and make space for the bright and happy ones. Atleast, I will prefer to grow up with new things rather than growing out with old habits.